Thursday, July 25, 2013

The ONLY goal we should ALL have

Some want to lose weight, some want to build muscle, some want to score well for exams, some want to make money, some want a successful business, some want a rewarding career. Regardless of these materialistic goals, I think it would be great if everyone had a goal that sits on top of all these goals. A meaningful and powerful goal. What is this goal? I'll get to that.

Right now I'm working towards something big. So imagine yourself working towards your most important goal. By work, I speak not of the physical action that you do at a specific point in time but simply the aiming of the goal and the work is everything you do every day.

Now imagine reaching your goal. Are you happy? Is it right to feel happy?

Now imagine failing to reach your goal. Are you down? Are you sad? Should you be?

As I work towards my big goal right now, there is very little certainty whether or not I can reach my materialistic goal; not because the certainty of my efforts are in question but instead the certainty of my knowledge and other non-effort related factors. Yet one thing remains certain; that is, no matter the end result, I'll be proud, I'll be happy. Why? Because I know for a fact I will accomplish my bigger goal, my main goal.

So what is it? The goal I think we should all have and have no reason to not be able to accomplish it is that we should aim to put in our very best effort. Okay I know, that sounded cliché as hell. Let me make it real for you. Our goal should be that when we are at the end of our deadline for our goal, the end of the road, we can look back and be proud as fuck and say I did everything I could. I did not give up. I stuck to the plan all the way. I did not fall off and on. I did not leave any stone unturned. In other words, if I fail to achieve my goal, it's not because I didn't do enough(of what I thought is optimal). It may be a million other reasons like I did too much(thinking more was better when it may be otherwise) aka poor knowledge, it could be genetics, it could circumstances that were beyond any form of control(severe accident, etc) BUT no matter what, it wasn't because I did not do my best. No one can question my effort. As such, I am proud of my effort. I am even more proud that despite the lack of results, the failure to see progress, I kept on going at it.

The beauty of this goal? For a start, it's certainly more meaningful than just aiming for a materialistic goal. A materialistic goal that may have been attained with minimal effort yet pleases you. What kind of a person are you then to be so easily satisfied? This goal has more meaning than aiming for a physical goal which may actually be impossible(as much as I hate that word) to achieve and becoming sad for not having reached your goal. The beauty is that it builds character. Teaches one to be hard working, to have work ethic(something on the brink of extinction in my generation) instead of just materialistic means to measure one's success. The beauty lies in getting only what we deserve; achieving our goal now has nothing to do with genetics, circumstances, nothing. That is all out of the equation. You do our best, you earn our goal. You be half hearted, even as you achieve your physical goal, you know deep down you don't feel that sense of accomplishment.

Too often we get caught up with out physical goal we forget that the sense of achievement is not found in the materialistic accomplishments but in the effort. Earning a million dollars feels great because you earned it. The journey towards that million with it's up and downs but never giving up is what makes you truly happy. Of course the million dollars by itself added a different kind of happiness. Whereas having a million dollars appear in your bank magically from nowhere isn't going to grant you the same amount of happiness. Sure, it makes you happy. But it can never be the same as if you earned it yourself. Likewise for all other goals. This actually ties in with my IF & IIFYM post. In which some people choose a method for attaining their goals because it's easier, not because they actually think it's a better way. In other words, by simply doing that, they have failed the goal of having left no stone unturned, should they have such a goal. Which they should!

So go ahead, add this goal above all other goals and watch your life change.


Saturday, July 6, 2013

IIFYM & IF: Only for the weak?

I have to admit, I'm quite against IIFYM and IF. Not from a scientific stand point. Not even from a practicality stand point this time.

What is IIFYM and IF? IIFYM stands for If It Fits Your Macros. It's a diet/nutrition philosophy that revolves around the idea that you can eat anything you want so long it.... well, fits your macros! Macros are your protein, carbs and fats. Unlike "bro science" where certain foods are off the table because it differentiates sources of carbs based on sugar content, sources of protein based on amino profile and biological value and fats based on saturated or unsaturated. Bro science also entails eating at short intervals unlike IIFYM, as the name suggest, nothing matters except fitting and meeting your macros. Otherwise could be said as: eat whenever you feel like eating. IF stands for Intermittent Fasting. Meaning fast through the day and have an eating window. Anywhere from 2-8 hours usually. Again unlike bro science that requires constant eating with short and regular intervals through the day of the specific foods that are viewed as "clean".

There are tons of people in the fitness industry that use IIFYM or IF, usually both. For some reason it's a lot more common with females. Why do I hate it? Why do I hate people using it? I mean sure, science claims it's perfectly fine if not better right?

Sure enough, using IIFYM and IF is fine. What isn't fine is denial and self-denial that people live in telling themselves they use it because it's proven by science and think it's superior when the truth is something else. That is what I hate. You see, most of these people on IIFYM and IF have a couple of things in common.

Firstly, they want results. They hate the process and they have no passion for fitness. They do not have appreciation for work ethic and discipline. Next, they can't keep it together to do "bro science" diets. So regardless whether or not they genuinely feel that IIFYM and IF are the right way to go, the deciding reason for using it is that it's an easy way out. As I've mentioned so many times: "Every action is measured from the sentiment from which it proceeds.". Which brings me to the last thing they have in common: most of them don't genuinely believe it's superior to bro science dieting. They only think they do because that's how self denial works.

Don't get me wrong, people who use IIFYM and IF because it's an easy way out and not because they have genuine non-biased believe in it means they are weak mentally but that isn't what I hate; I'm fine with that. What I really hate and see a lot are people who do that and live in denial. Either to others or to both self and others. Lying to themselves that they are doing it because it's better when the truth, the sentiment from which they proceeded, was that of being unable to put forth the work needed for bro science dieting.

Now back to the gender. Is it just me or the fact that it comes from mostly females, it make me cringe every time I hear yet another female being on IIFYM and IF and if I ask why, they talk about science or how it's balanced/a way away from "obsession" when they truth is they just simply can't stick to a bro science diet. Then they go on belittling bro science. Call me sexist but it seems that females tend to be weaker mentally and it gets on my nerves seeing how many of them live in denial not realizing the trend.

What irks me more is that these people go about down playing bro science methods. For the very sub-conscious reason of making them feel better about their denial, they will talk about bro science methods being unnecessary, wrong or an obsessive behaviour. It were no different than if I couldn't stand the pressure in school and drop-out, then go on lying to myself that I did it because I think the education system is crap. Followed by further attacking the education system of its flaws on social media to make myself feel better. Regardless of whether the education system is crap, what I demonstrated is the result of me trying to convince myself that I quit school because it's crap not because I couldn't take the pressure; denial. (Don't get the point mixed up with whether or not the education system is actually crap. Likewise, don't get the point mixed up with whether or not IIFYM and IF actually works; that's not the debate here. The important thing is what is truly believed to work and what is  That is what I see happening with IIFYM and IF.

So if you're using either or both, ask yourself. Give it some serious thought. What's the real  reason you do it? Do you really think it's science that convinced you? Do you really think bro science is "an obsessive" thing? Or are just afraid of the discipline it actually takes? Are you just unable to put forth the work needed? Are you just living in a denial? Is this what you want? It may not matter much here but it a decision on a small scale decides how you live your life in every other aspect. Decide to do bro science dieting at least once and prove to yourself you're capable and stop only because you think IIFYM and IF are truly superior methods(bro science dieting being an obsession is bullshit unless you are doing all of these for the wrong purpose in the first place as I've written here before) and you will certainly become a stronger version of yourself. Continue living in denial(with or without realizing it) and it will determine the type of person you are in life and the choices you will make in your life.